Dec 03 2008
Taking back an ex for the Holidays
Whatever you settle with… you may settle for. When you are separated from someone, have you noticed that when you miss them it is because you remember the good times and all the fun.
If you start to think about the pain, you actually remember why you are not with that person anymore.
Holidays can cause the memory to be selective. Just because you hear music and good cheer should by no means create a false reality. If you start to remember past season celebrations the next thing you know…you will either call them, or they will call you. Or you run into the person you had on your mind for weeks. But what happens when the season is over, the holidays end? You are no longer off work and for some reason or another he or she doesn’t even look as good and now you remember why it was over.
Stay true to yourself. Get through the good cheer with good decisions. If it was really over, remember why and don’t get trapped into the bliss of good cheer and heartache only to have the cheer leave and the heartache remain.
Surround yourself with good friends, and celebrate you.
The awesome sensational person you have become without the one that hurt you the most.
Walk away from the Holiday season into a new year with a new plan. The new person will show up so long as your past does not block the pathway that you pulled out… just for a reason in the season!
